Quote: I asked him if we could snuggle instead of reading... trying to keep the connection going. He insisted on reading 'just for a few minutes'. I tried to not get irritated, but I did.
OK, the goal at this point is to get to some cuddling. Alas, it looks like we're gonna have to wait 10 minutes or more...
Quote: He finally cuddled in, put his arms around me, and thanked me for this afternoon.
Wonderful! We're there! He's showing appreciation, he's drawn near, and now the cuddling can begin!
Except...
Quote: I told him I'd love to thank him for putting me first tonight, but wasn't able to because he didn't put me first... He did say that it was a compromise that he 'only' read for about 10 minutes, but it felt like he got his cake, and got to eat it too, and I took second place.
!!! Ouch !!!
No cuddling for tonight. Try again another time. But if you ask me, cuddling would have been a lot more fun and rewarding than what actually happened. In the morning you could have decided whether it was worth raising this issue, and if you did decide to raise it, you could do it at a time that you were both less tired and less vulnerable. Because this was a vulnerable, sensitive time - late at night, when you were really wanting to be held, and after you had made yourself vulnerable by having sex.
Nobody's perfect. Forgive him, forgive yourself, and move on. But next time, if you want to "keep the connection going", don't push him away like this. Use the "cuddle barometer" - before you say something, think about whether it's going to draw you closer or push you apart.
I tried to not get irritated, but I did. 
