Michelles outline of what you will find in her book divorce remedy
Quote: In the next section of the book, I am going to take you by the hand and introduce you to the seven steps you’ll need to take to save your marriage. In the first step- Start with a Beginner’s Mind- I will help you free yourself from the change-defeating kind of thinking that plagues all of us from time to time. I will help you replace these unproductive thoughts with new and more creative ideas that will assist you in accomplishing the goals you have for your marriage. I will teach you how change happens in relationships.
In the second step- Know What You Want- I will help you identify your marriage-saving goals. Although you may think you already know what they are, you don’t. You haven’t been specific enough. Therefore, I will help you make you goals crystal clear, so clear, you can almost touch them.
In the third step- Ask for What You Want- I will encourage you to approach your spouse with your newly developed goals. I will suggest ways for you to do this and strategies to use if your spouse isn’t as receptive as you would like.
In the fourth step- Stop Going Down Cheeseless Tunnels- I will help you figure out which strategies you’ve been using that have been backfiring and making your life miserable. This will help you redirect your energies to doing things that are more productive.
In the fifth step- Experiment and Monitor Results- I will teach you a slew of field-tested techniques for getting through to the spouse you love. I will help you become more systematic in your marriage-saving approaches and that you learn how to “read the results” after you’ve tried something new. By the time you put step five into practice, you will begin to have a much higher marriage-saving I.Q.
In the sixth step- Taking Stock- you will be asked to stand back for a moment and evaluate how much progress you’ve made since you’ve started the program. Once you’re clearer about how far you’ve come, you’ll know exactly what you need to do to reach your goals.
In the seventh step- Keeping The Positive Changes Going- I will teach you how to make your changes permanent. You’ll learn how to prevent minor setbacks from becoming a spiraling downward trend. In short, I will show you how to make being solution-oriented a way of life.
And finally, after learning all the new techniques, you will read an important chapter in Section Two entitled, Pulling It All Together. It is here that I will help bring all the ideas, techniques, strategies to life by showing you how several people in your shoes have made the Seven-Step Program work for them. I will walk you through the path they took, week-by-week, so that you can compare and contrast your marriage-saving experiences with theirs.
In Section Three- Common Dilemmas, Unique Solutions- I will answer the questions put to me from thousands of divorce busters over the years. In so doing, I will address some of the most common situations and problems with which people who are trying to save their marriages are confronted. They are: infidelity, internet affairs, passion meltdown, depression and last, but not least, the midlife crisis.
Section Four will be a chapter you will want to read over and over and over. That’s because it is full of success stories. You will read about people whose marriages were divorce-bound, full-speed ahead but due to their putting this program into practice and their undying belief in themselves and the importance of saving their marriages, they managed to make their relationships more loving than ever. You will feel incredibly touched by these real life accounts from people who feel as you do about the importance of making marriages work. Their letters are truly a blessing!
don't be afraid of the title it's not just for people facing divorce...it's for all couples.
