I have just shocked myself. Something has changed in me. I've mentioned before that H has to work from home. I've moved all his belongings into his office, so that he has access to his belongings and his office, that's it.
Yesterday, he decided to move his office to another room in the house, recently made empty by my belongings being moved into storage. I was mildly irritated he didn't ask me, but it wasn't a big deal so I let it go. I was more than mildly irritated when he stayed here until 10pm last night, setting up his new office.
He's only supposed to be in the house to work, yet here he is - rearranging rooms, and staying until past working hours. Today, he's still moving stuff around - but I don't see him working.
I've flipped my schedule around so that I don't have to interact with him at all. I stay up all night and sleep during the day. This is inconvenient, but great for my peace of mind. He's been really nice the last couple of days - acting excited to see me when I walk in a room, saying hello and asking other kinds of questions.
Thankfully, V called it for what it is, a "sweet cycle". I'm doing what he wants. I'm working on terms and submitting it back and forth through our lawyers, so that we can avoid mediation. Of course he's being nice to me! Had she not pointed it out - I probably would have been very excited by his sudden change in demeanor.
So today, I get up and walk in the kitchen. He's there, working on a lamp. Oh, he's so happy to see me. "Hello!" Immediately followed by, "How are you doing on the numbers?" I told him I was doing fine, and just stopped talking.
I started dinner, and while I was working on it, it hit me what he was doing - he was being nice because I was cooperating! Then, I got a bit irritated. He wasn't "working", he's tinkering around in the house, moving offices, and putting himself in a part of the house I'm going to have trouble avoiding.
So I went to his office and asked when he was leaving. He looked shocked and asked why. So I explained that I'd turned by schedule upside down to avoid interacting with him, and his sudden longer hours were interfering with my time to myself. I was nice, just very matter of fact.
I am listening to an H in full temper tantrum mode. He's in his office slamming drawers and muttering under his breath. LOL I am strangely unaffected by his actions. I see the manipulation for what it is. He's shocked I'm not thrilled to have him around. So am I.
My motivation? I want him to stick to our agreement about when/why he is at the house. He usually just does what he wants. My L had an agreement drawn up to protect me. I want to stick to it.
I'm tired of being manipulated by him. The less of him I have to see, the better I do.
I'm just not as thrilled to be in his company as I once was. I don't want to have to interact with him. I'm honestly shocked that I've gotten to this place, yet here I am.
