I'm trying to stay positive, but I've hit a bit of a speed bump, and I'm looking for your take on it.

Ok, without going into much detail, dh told me he'd love to have a 'quickie' in the middle of the day, so we did! Not so bad, I kept my eyes closed... aparently he could see everything but I just went for it and he loved it!

Skip to last evening... we usually go to bed together, but he has made this habbit of reading for hours after we tuck in... it keeps me awake, and I feel like he's too 'busy' to cuddle up. We used to cuddle, just not lately. Soooooooo.... I asked him if we could snuggle instead of reading... trying to keep the connection going. He insisted on reading 'just for a few minutes'. I tried to not get irritated, but I did.

He finally cuddled in, put his arms around me, and thanked me for this afternoon. I told him I'd love to thank him for putting me first tonight, but wasn't able to because he didn't put me first... He did say that it was a compromise that he 'only' read for about 10 minutes, but it felt like he got his cake, and got to eat it too, and I took second place.

Now, I know that whole point of this is not to 'bribe' him into good behavior, but it would be nice if I felt like he at least appreciated that I'm making an effort.

Ok, this is just the first time this will happen... what do I do about it? I made a bit of a comment, but really just told him he didn't make me feel like number one... I feel like we've gone a step backwards... I'm not feeling overly motivated today. Do I have to just accept that he isn't going to be on board with me with everything? Am I expecting too much? I did tell him what I wanted as much as I could, is there a better way?

islandgirl