Hey Trumpet,
Feeling for ya.
I've been there. Eventually what I was able to realize is that I was no longer in the same limbo I had been in for a while. I realized the D paperwork is only a business transaction and for my WXW she had actually left me when she started her A, then she left me again when I confronted her and she should no remorse, then she left me again when she chose to maintain the A over working on our M, then she left me again when she started her second A...... there were dozens of other interactions where she left the M. Too many to list. If this is the path she chose then you just have to focus on being the best Trumpet you can be. You can not control her choices nor would you want the burden of it.
If R is in your future then she is going to have to burn right down to ashes. She's going to have to feel the pain of life without Trumpet. Be Awesome! Do not be her H. She will need to struggle on her own. It's hard to watch but get out of God's way. She will need to feel the consequences of her decisions.


Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place