Moving Ahead - In the UK - Huddy (pt16)

[Huddy]

W brings over the kids and instantly thrusts a piece of paper in to my hand. W has requested that I remove my name from the joint bank account. This isn't a problem as it's something I planned to do anyway. She requests I sign in instantly. I decide to tell her I'd do it in my own time. Instant pissy fest!

As I perused the document, W then asked me to provide my bank card and either give it to her, or, cut it up in front of her. This is obviously ridiculous behaviour and I tell W that I will destroy the card when I'm ready and won't hand it over. By now W is in a mega huff and is shouting one word answers/questions at me. The kids are wanting drinks/snacks, so I decide to see to them first. Some kids are deserving of my attention, the bigger kids will just have to wait their turn!

I sign the required document, but refuse to cut up the card in front of her. It just smacks of control. W then tells me that I am having going to have to 'have the day off' as she is going to her parents and the kids need picking up from school. Again, I validate, but tell her I can't promise and I will see what I can do. Privately, I will have half a day - I don't really care if she's going clubbing, swinging or whatever else her sister has got planned 230 miles away, it's the principle of control.

So, it goes to prove that when you stand up to your WAS, they will get extremely angry and manipulative when you don't play by their rules!