I just went back and re-read sandi's WW post. I had read it before, but I thought I was dealing with a WAW at the time. I need to toughen up now, without being a jerk. I don't want my kids to see me that way. I don't consider what I am about to do as "tough love", as I do not love her right now. It needs to be done to separate myself from her in every way but emotionally. That will still take time. I always knew an OM was a possibility, but I just never saw how it was possible. She hid it well. Now, I need to hide my anger just as well. I know myself enough to know that I cannot be near her today. I won't be able to hold my emotions in. Not today at least.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long