I bet you are much more attractive than you give yourself credit, most of us are. It doesn't serve your best intrests to dwell on the negative, nor is it anymore objectively accurate than pulling out all the incredible positives. Bodies are just bodies and pretty great wonderful things to have, and all of them are flawed in some ways. WE will ALWAYS find someone around in better shape, we also will ALWAYS find someone in worse shape. Becasue you are a kind, empathic, lovely woman of character and integrity, you wouldn't belittle or degrade someone who's body didn't work as well as yours. So DON'T treat yourself disrespectfully. Just like it's NOT ok to call someone else negative names, it's equally NOT ok to call yourself names.
You don't love your challenged child any less, or find those imperfections offputting. You don't love your husband less for his imperfections. Why would your H love you less for yours, especially for things beyond your control (stretchmarks). Trust your H's Love for you. Trust that your H is just as capable and willing of overlooking, and dismissing imperfections as you are.
This is not to ignore the fact that the healthier we are the more attractive we are. Also the more attracted we are. Honest assessment is different from body bashing. You have to be aware of your current shape, so you can plan how best to improve it, or to make choices, like maybe not eat the 3rd peice of cheesecake. It's also important to realistically know your body's current capabilities, so you don't injure yourself doing to much too fast. (like deciding to run a marathon the next week when you haven't trained and currently get winded at half a block )
Finally it's all about attitude. I know some absolutely gorgeous women who are rather obese. Yet what I notice about them is how pretty they are, how fun to be around, how good they look, how confident they are, and sexy, not how big they are.
When you feel sexy, confident, beautiful, and wonderful, what did you do to get that way? What are the circumstances? Get specific, H nuzzled my neck, I did my nails, I'm wearing scent (hardly ever happens) I colored my hair, I did my hair, I bothered with makeup, we picked a new restraurant, H called me cutie, I exercized, I bought myself flowers, I stopped in a florist just to browse, h bought me flowers, I'm wearing clothes that flatter me and fit, I'm wearing different earings, we took a shower together, hmmm wearing a thong (gotta try that and get me one in my current size) I'm wearing my best fitting sexyiest most comfy bra, I got enough sleep so I was able to do a bunch of the stuff above.
Just a few things to ponder
This has been a fun thread to read, btw I am also LD wondering where my passion went.
