Hi Cali, I'm sorry to read this but glad that you at least seem to be in a reasonably good place about things. So, are you saying that you plan to get your own place now? Or are you waiting to see what happens next after your talks?

I can see what you're saying about your W not coming to the table with enough commitment, and how frustrating that must be. She just may not have that to offer at this point in time - and only you know whether you are truly ready to move on. I do think she was making some progress for a while there, and I'm always reminded that the spouse is the last person a MLCer truly connects with...

Anyway, I just wanted to send you hugs and offer my support. I'm hoping someone with a little more wisdom than me will stop by. I must admit, one thing I tire of hearing is 'dig deeper for patience.' I'm not sure whether H & I could ever reconcile as I'm not sure I have it within me. I read the accounts of others who have trodden that difficult path and I doubt myself.

Take care my friend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus