I have the same problem of doing things expecting a result or change in my W. I know DBing is for you to lessen the pain and to make you a better man. I have trouble accepting this advise. Also I am sure you have read that since BD, your MR is over and to move forward to work on yourself, to reflect to see where you went wrong and fix the stuff you want to change in yourself. Changes that you can then take to a new MR be it with your W or someone else.
This is all advise I need to take myself. Everything I have been doing was for a change in my W, but that has been changing over time. A very small ways the changes have been for me more now. I see the wisdom of that.
Take the focus off of your W and what she does and focus on you Free. Let her go through what she need to go through and you work on you and your kids.
I think the more you read this and see that what your doing doesn't work , the more it makes sense that the changes are for you. You can do this.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
