Side note ( I am very happy to continue the discussion we have been having) so looking for advice on plans I have for tonight. There is a local ski hill that is open in re evenings making it great for a person that is busy all day. I have always loved snow boarding and am planning on going more this year starting tonight if everything can work out , mostly child care. So the issue now becomes W. She also enjoys it and I believe she will be home tonight. Do I ask if she would like to come? That I feel not as favourable. Do I say I'm going to the hill and if she asks to come do I say sure? Or do I say no this is for me. I plan on going either way if I can. But if she asks to join do I deny her or accept her company?
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
