Thank you Sandi, Azzork, Scidad and Mona for your advice and input on my sitch thoughts and feelings. This is no where near as easy as it seemed at first. As u was approaching this wrong. I do want to stand up and walk away from talks. I guess we. Conversation starts. If it's something i don't want to hear about or discuss. No matter how hard it is not to support and show I care I can't. It becomes about her at that point. She will get angry and hurt that I am not available like I used to be. She chose this tho. That she didn't want me to be that person. And she may or may not miss the fact that I was. ( I have a feeling she does). At the same time. It can't be my concern whether she cares or not.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
