Mona, Your dryer needs a higher voltage plug. The 100 isn't going to work and will drip the breaker. At some point, it may even cause an electrical fire. If remember correctly, a new line needs to be run to that outlet to increase the voltage. It's not a matter of changing the breaker to increase the voltage.
As for the roof, I'm glad to read that your mother has someone coming out. Hopefully they can either patch the issue or put a tarp over the area until it can be fixed. It could be a simple fix of sealing around the vents or flashing around a fireplace...but the roofer will know.
I hate to say this, but if you are getting angry every time he does something, then you aren't as detached as you think you are. What is it about him that makes you angry? Is it because he's out on the street or something else? If you can come up w/the answers, then that might be a place to start on how to deal w/the anger. I know, anger is something we all experience, but you've got to find a way to release that anger because it can build up to the point of affecting your heart and blood pressure. Maybe some exercise could help? Walking is a good stress releaser just as a trip to the gym can help. Put that anger to good use...finish up projects that you've put off and if that doesn't work, look for a pillow and beat the stuffing out of it, but please do not allow that anger to take over your life.
Detaching takes time and you've been doing fairly well in the last few weeks. Take one day at a time and if he does something, just shake your head, count to 10 and do not engage. Consider the source and remember stupid is as stupid does and let it go. You can't control him or fix him. You only have control over yourself and you are the only one that can do something about your anger. There are ways to deal w/it, you just have to figure out the best way for you to release it (and not at him, your family or your co-workers).
I hope you get the issues at home repaired soon. They are a bone of contention and I think once they are repaired, life should settle down a bit for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
