What a wise daughter you have! She is definitely a very astute young lady who can see through the poor me attitude of your wife.
I, too, am glad you had a nice Christmas and New Year's. I hope this year will be a far better one for you and your daughters.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.