I am not approaching this right. I trying listen and show I care while changing myself into who who I know I should be. So to me that mean listening to what she had to say. Does the fact i didn't get drawn into a fight and didn't bawl and beg her not to move away at least mean I am stepping in the right direction? I just need to start having better choices as to what I talk about I guess
She's feeling upset at work, shes having trouble with the kids, her car isnt working right, etc - good things to listen and validate about
She's having issues with OM, shes having doubts about moving out, etc - totally disrespectful to you to complain about. Leave that cr@p alone.
