Because I've been working 50/60 hours a week during December, with only 2 days off (Christmas day and new years day).

Because I'm now back to running my own business and have a ton of work to catch up on.

Because I now have my tax return to concentrate on.

Because I also have my CV to update to send to temping agencies.

Because he's going off to work in the States from the start of February to the start of May, and that's when I was thinking of getting rid of all of his stuff.

Because that is the timeline that suits me best.

I also didn't say that was the exact wording I was going to include in my text to him. That's the essence of what I'm going to say.

And, I'd also add he was the one who decided to have the affair and leave. My emotions are for me only now, and for whoever I choose to share them with. I don't particularly care if me using 'as per' sounds cold and might upset him, or drive him crazy, or whatever. I'm not interested, I'm really not. I'm much happier focusing on myself.

Sorry if that is all super blunt and to the point. I'm running a it short of time today...need to run out the door soon.


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017