Cadet thanks for the first post and welcome, anyone else:

any advice how to continue with 180, maybe not everthing is lost

for divorced and separated: what were the situations that surprised you (basically what should I agree on while I can)

Me38,W36,D9
M 10y, R 14y

10/11/2015 wants to leave
25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans
Jan 2016 started DBing
Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms
Sep 2016 sleeping in same room