WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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Zeus thanks again this helps.

My short term goal is no R talk for 2 weeks at least and to GAL and detach from the outcome as much as possible. And to sleep well.

Last night W snooped again, and gained access to my phone. It was unlocked. She checked my photos and saw the photos of her bondage gear and sex toys that I had taken and not deleted.

She deleted them. I realised this late last night and wasn't sure if she had checked my emails or websites I have visited like this one!

I confronted her and she says she only deleted the photos. I think she only had a short time to do this, so maybe.

She agreed to draw a line under the snooping. Neither of us to snoop anymore and I made sure I have deleted all the photos on my iPhone and iPad and icloud.

This morning she was awake very early 5:30 am and so was I . She came into my room and asked to be 'friends'. Last night she used that phrase again ' you are the enemy in the house'.

I think this is another nail in the coffin of my M! But what the hell..... all I can do is detach and gal, and get rid of all the evidence of snooping.

I might not contribute to this site for a week or two as it is possible she saw this site on my iPhone.

This whole shitstorm [censored] as whatever I do in the interests of saving my M seems to backfire on me. We are on the edge of the cliff.

W if you read this..... Then every post I have made was honest and true as I saw it and done with the best of intentions. I believe in marriage, our vows, and not walking away from marriage.