Darn. I thought most affairs are over in 5-6 months. Wrigley, post on other threads so people find their way to you. I've been through a similar thing, where my W also said she wanted to come home, and didn't know how to let the affair go. She said breaking up with me didn't feel right. But in the end that's exactly what she did. I don't know that doing anything differently would have made a difference. I'm so sorry you're going through this right now.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
