Thanks guys. All valid points and I appreciate the time and effort to support me. One day we will have to talk. It is inevitable. If I initiate it it will be when it suits me and/or when I believe the benefits outweigh the downside.

I truly would love to know her full thoughts even the worst. But for the moment I am nit sure it will help in the long term.

So for now I think I will try hold off on that chat. That being said it could pop out any minute!

Mutatia, I see caliguy dropped by to advise on the changing character traits.I listed mine yesterday.LLet's change together and truly become men our wives would be fools to leave.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together