Good night of sleep last night, retired to bed at 9/9:15 and slept well enough, til 5:45.
Working on GAL this week. I've a few activities I'd like to explore, need to set all of that in motion. Need to join a yoga class right away, and then I'd actually like to take piano or drum lessons. I'm not musical at all, love music, but is something I've always wanted to try.
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
jjal! I'm really impressed! You've found specific things you're interested in. That is a huge start.
Have you done yoga in the past? I'm interested in it and would love to start. That shall be one of my goals!
Piano or drum...wow. You don't start small, do you? If you love music, you're probably way more musical than you think - you just don't know how to put it all together yet. Lessons will absolutely change that for you. Imagine, you could be playing Fur Elise in six short months on the piano. I'm pretty sure there's not a score for drums. LOL
I've been looking through the MLC threads this morning, looking for inspiration and guidance. I found this little gem, and I'm going around sharing it with everyone I think it may be helpful to. Sometimes everything just gets to be too much, and I forget where I'm supposed to be focusing. It really helped me redefine where I want to go, and how I'm going to get there. I hope it helps you a bit, too.
Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
Consider the DB basic principals....
1) Healthy boundaries. 2) Better communication 3) GAL 4) "act as if" 5) Change how you look at things 6) Keep a positive outlook 7) Personal growth 8) Learning more about you so that you can be all that you can be. 9) Learning to avoid "cheese less tunnels" 10) Love and respect
These principals can be used in all facets of ones life. When used properly....they truly can change you from the INSIDE OUT.
No contact since last Wednesday. I am sure it is coming though, she's wanting to D super fast! Anyway, last Wednesday I congratulated her on her promotion. She replied back thanking me for that, thanking me for doing something for her parents, and then wished me a Happy New Year's. I was going to wish her the same, but I decided to stay NC. I feel bad because I didn't wish her a nice safe night at least, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I think I'm actually beginning to choose my own self-respect more than her.
Still even though I'm doing good during the day, the subconscious mind has other ideas for me. Waking up with my heart racing for whatever reason is troubling.
So, I know she has an EA, hard to deny that, and it probably has progressed a bit past that, no proof though. She's been gone for 6 months now, and on the BD date, I asked her if there was another guy, she said no. I found out who it was, and it was who I suspected a week after she moved out. I've not once mentioned his name or even let on that I know what is going on. I just let her go. Has anyone else ever not confronted about a sneaky relationship? I totally want to, I really do, because I want to see the look on her face, but I really don't want to put any emotional time into it. Same with him. I have his number and have his email address, and could absolutely confront him too, but, not worth my time. Better spent reading a book...
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
First contact in 8 days this morning. An email saying she was coming by to grab something out of the remaining closet of junk she has. I think I am going to ask her if I can help her move the rest of that stuff out.
And I think I've decided to buy her out of the house. I want to stay there, move on when I am ready. This all feels so rushed, and I am happy living where I am.
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
