Hurricane Rising

[NateG79]

Well, I know this because his pastor is in very deep counseling with him and his wife, to talk through their marriage issues. This guy is very much not onboard to have the affair exposed to his wife. The pastor has contacted me twice, and has had more than one confessional and counseling with him since. Also, OM#1 mentioned that wife had begun "mentioning" another man in conversations with him. A person I know. Currently going through divorce, with kids. See, my wife is very much suspected to be bipolar. She engages in risky behavior at times, she's terrible at maintaining relations with other people, has a LOT of social anxiety. Any good friendship she's had, she's burned every bridge. She has very self-destructive tendencies. As for man #1, he doesn't love her, he just got sucked in, he's very immature for 35. But he didn't like the idea of what would happen to him if exposed the affair to his wife. His wife would take him to the cleaners. I don't hear many AP's that have a conscience and reach out to the betrayed spouse. And his Deacon at his catholic church is very much involved at this point.

My wife has had many addiction problems in the past. She's a victim of molestation from her birth father (or so she says). She's abused pain killers, mood pills, alcohol. You name it, she's abused it. She's also an adulation junkie, and she doesn't know what boundaries are. If anyone shows her even the slightest of attention, she doesn't seem to understand that that's people simply being nice. She's very manipulative, and always has been. She used to play her parents off of each other to get what she wants. She's had a pattern.

As to the text, 2 nights ago, she texted me to let me know she was putting down D2. I called to say goodnight. 2 minutes later I get a text saying "OK baby". 20 minutes later she replies that she accidentally turned on voice texting and it sent that while she was putting D2 to bed. Now, I worked in the cell phone industry for 5 years. I know how cell phones work up, down, sideways, and backwards. It's not possible for a phone to "accidentally" open up a contact, turn on voice recognition, dictate a message and send it to said contact. You have to either instruct it to where it's going to be sent, or you physically have to send the text button. When I confronted her about it, she immediately got defensive, and then jumped into a spew about how she felt it was unfair that I had people to vent and talk to while being broken hearted, and her heart was already broken, and now it was shattered, and how much emotional turmoil she's in. How even though she betrayed me, I betrayed her in many ways. Basically justifying herself again, and putting me down. Seems like a screen to me, to keep me unbalanced to the evidence that that text was meant for someone else.

quick edit: forgot to mention that this new person, she has admitted has come to her home to "talk". She said she needed someone that was neutral to talk to. I know this guy, he's a radio DJ, in his 40's, and has had a thing for her since she was 17. He's going through a divorce atm, and would probably jump at the chance to get with her. And considering she's probably going through withdrawals from A, and how quickly she decides she's "in love", it's not out of the realm of imagination that she would immediately jump into something else to keep that high going.