You've got to sit down and tell him in exactly the same way that you are telling us =) Its just that simple. I know that if my wife told me that she had recognized the problem in the way that you clearly have, that she understood where I was coming from and had made the effort that you are making, I would be more than willing to meet her halfway. We aren't beast who just want sex . . . . he wants to be your husband too and Im sure that he wants you to feel as fulfilled as you want him to feel.
And as far as turning him down sometimes . . . . . its not being turned down once in a while that bothers us . . . . its being CONSTANTLY turned away, and you've already made it clear to us that you don't want to do that. So make it clear to him just as nicely as you did here in this thread. And when you feel as though you need to turn him down, do it by saying "how bout tomorrow morning after I've had some sleep?"
The poor guy is probably just so excited right now by you initiating that he's thinking "WHHOOHHOOOO . . . She's BACK!" and is trying to make up for lost time. Just that alone should tell you that he's been hurting and longing for this for a while regardless of what he's been telling you.
