But how do I get him to understand MY NEEDS in all of this? I'd love to exchange back rubs in bed... seems simple, right? But, it seems to get 'complicated' as soon as it's H's turn! He changes it from a relaxing rub to a request for sex. I give him a little grope in the kitchen getting breakfast ready and he asks if we're 'on' for tonight! I know right now he's desperate for 'it' , but it's making me nervous already!!! Seems it has to be all or nothing!!!

What is a nice way to turn him down? What would make it easier to hear? I want more non-sexual touching, but how do we get to that? I am afraid of 'leading him on' right now, and causing hurt feelings (worse than he already has) and misunderstandings.

Help!!!

islandgirl