Hi LouR - just want to drop in to offer encouragement. First, kudos to you on taking the time to improve yourself. That is hard work and takes so much honesty and self awareness. Nice job! And, while it is so difficult, nice work on setting those boundaries for yourself within your own home.

You are an inspiration!

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced