Ok, now I see the real truth... poor H! BUT!!! What about the difference in drives? Can we EVER get to a point where we are both happy? Seems he would give up eating/sleeping for it, and I just don't put it in that category... yet! How do we get to the point where we can both feel good about this? Do I have to say "yes!" every time? How do I say a nice "no"? Is there a way to do it where he feels like I'm still hot for him, just need sleep more!!!
Now that I realize how much he craves my physical touch, I'm a little worried! See, my past habit is to avoid his touches, as they USUALLY end up with him making some request for sex, and me turning him down. I just don't think he knows how to 'turn it off' if he gets going. So, if I start getting all 'touchy-feely', isn't it going to lead to me turning him down? How do I tell him that for me, non-sexual touching is great, but I won't get into it if he always turns it into a 'come-on'?
We have been married for 10yrs, have 4 children (11, 8, 3, 20mos) including one special needs son, so I think a lot of my problem stems from exhaustion. I'm 34yrs old, so I don't think hormones could be the problem just yet, so I guess I just don't get WHY I'm LD. I wish I was HD... it would make things so much easier... is it possible to 'change'???
I appreciate any input you might have... I really want this to be a change I can continue for life... I already see such a wonderful change in H!
How do we get to the point where we can both feel good about this? Do I have to say "yes!" every time? How do I say a nice "no"? Is there a way to do it where he feels like I'm still hot for him, just need sleep more!!!
How do I tell him that for me, non-sexual touching is great, but I won't get into it if he always turns it into a 'come-on'? 
