Here I am still

[Zues126]

Kyrie,

You can't compete with the porn. Porn is fantasy, and fake.

You want to come from a place of integrity and honesty when you want to be intimate with your husband. Save the heavy flirting for when your marriage is on a sound footing.

Find a counselor. That's what speaking the truth in love would look like.

See my last post. The reason I feel so strongly opposed to this is because it falls into that 'camp 4'.

Let me ask you the same question Trumpet. If your wife had used porn, would you have divorced her? Or if she had gambled?

The more we try to control other people's behavior the more we interfere with their journey the less likely they are to achieve growth. The wake up call you had was not from a wife that wanted you to change, it was from someone that had truly stopped trying to control you. It was the lack of her efforts to change you that caused you to wake up. Realize that.