Jpeg - remember, I get called names, too. Whenever I don't do or say what he wants. It's a form of tantrum. You are not used to it, nor should you be, but that's all it is.
He was attempting to intimidate you and crush you, because it's worked in the past. You calmly pointed him in the right direction, which at the same time silently let him know you weren't affected by his attempt to control. He got mad, and acted like a brat. Simple as that.
It is crushing when the one we love calls us names, and seems to believe them - and maybe they do right then, who knows? But really, it has everything to do with how messed up they are, and nothing to do with us.
I hurt, so badly, every time H does this to me. It does make it easier to see when I spot it in other situations, though, and suddenly I'm not so hurt anymore, because I see it for what it is. Bratty behavior from a grown man.
