MB, Just to add that there *are* some consequences. Your kids will figure him out. He is missing out--big time.
My stbx travels around like we did 10 years ago. I saw some pics of him and his Gf (don't ask. ..). She resembles me a bit (though nearly 10 yes younger!), and the pics really reminded me of when we were in our early 30s-- had enough $$ to travel a bit, but no kids to worry about. Lots of fun weddings and parties to go to,could easily get away for a fun weekend.
Ok, so that's his life. It would be nice to travel a bit more. But would I be willing to give up 80% of my time with my D? He!! No. Not even a chance. He's definitely losing more than me, even though he has more money, more friends, richer friends, more supportive family. It's still no contest.
Don't keep score, and just help your kids work through their emotions. You can't always save them from bad things happening, and it's so terrible that he is not there for them more. But you can help them deal with their emotions. You can only control you.
Hang in there my beautiful friend. You are an amazing mom and woman. (((MB)))
