I think what my friend said yesterday about him walking out with basically no consequences struck a nerve and I'm having a delayed reaction.
I have thought about this too because my WW stepped into the charmed life without any impediment on my part and tremendous logistical support from her new colleagues (and OM) and financial support from her parents. I cleared the way, did not share my pain nor anger, etc. So I feel too like she got off very easily and sometimes I wonder how in the world you can cause so much pain and profit from it. I didn't know it was even possible.
I came to the conclusion that it should not matter to me. That I shouldn't think about whether she's happy or not, but simply whether I'm happy and doing well. All energy directed at making her miserable for her hurtful choices is wasted and likely to be a large expense on my part. Just the other day, I honked at a car in a non-emergency situation. I never do this and I was reminded why: instead of forgetting about the incident in a matter of seconds, as usual, I was still stressed and spinning about it 15 minutes later. So, trying to cause harm to others, even when they would deserve it, causes us harm too. You and I don't need it right now. But I completely share your sense of injustice.
As for Mr. Fantastic's housing situation, I'm not sure I understand your question. Why does it matter to you? You seem to compare an awful lot. And it's entirely outside of your control, so likely to cause you pain without gain.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
