So the self confidence and self esteem are things within YOUR control, so as you grow and develop into the better version of yourself remember that... No one can take this away from you if you do not give them the power to do so.
That being said, I get it... My Ws A was like getting blindsided by a freight train, then learning all the things after I allowed the A, OM and the w to strip away all my confidence and self esteem... You literally would be certain it was 2 different people
So rebuilding, I've posted about this before, it's like going to the gym.. You are not going to walk right in and bench 320 off the bat, you have to start smaller and work at it. Start small... For me it was making the bed every morning, that little stupid achievement started my day off .... I knew my room was all set, bed made clothes out away and it felt nice. That's where I started... And to this day I still make that bed... Never have prior to all this
Then the next big thing I discovered were the lists. Sit down and take the time and write down list A... 10 things you like about yourself. These are your keepers. Next.... List B ... 10 things that you don't like, things you want to change. Now some of these can be those constant complaints by people in your life, but do not make this a top10 of your Ws complaints ... These are 10 things YOU don't care for about yourself. Finally, list C... 10 things you admire in other men, men you respect and look up to. So now that you have these 3 lists post them where you can look at them each morning, take inventory of them, the goal is to nurture list A, and slowly but surely replace list B with those admirable traits
For instance, one of my list A items is my sense of humor, now after BD admittedly I had lost a chunk so this helped me get that part of myself back a bit. An item B was my temper/anger... That was replaced with becoming more spiritual and being a man of faith, something I wasn't but admired in other men... Which went hand in hand with becoming more grounded and less prone to becoming angry.
Give it s shot, trust me when you feel you've made headway you will realize that self confidence and self esteem has grown leaps and bounds
