Here I am still

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See if you can find a Christian counselor who deals with hidden addictions.

That's what I did - found someone who deals with this every day, coming from a Christian perspective. I was dealing with both the M and the addiction. We tackled the addiction first, as that was the way I was going to heal, and then make headway with the W on reconciliation.

You'd just be working on how to support your H, or not support him, but still be there for the kids.

I know that my porn use went way down when my wife and I did have sex... way back when... lol. I just know putting yourself in that position, when you don't want to be, is sooo tough.

That's why a counselor would be much better than what I'm giving you.