Hi Jen! Something that helped me to understand our situation was to really put myself into H's shoes. I mean really focus and think about what I would be thinking and feeling were the situation reversed.
So if you are wanting to know if your H feels rejected and somewhat angry, think of how you would feel in his shoes. Is he turned down for sex frequently? Do you show him signs that you think he's attractive and sexy? If not, how would you feel in that same scenario? Would it make you question your attractiveness or effectiveness as a wife? Would it make you angry that he never seemed interested in you?
I am the HD partner in my marriage, but it really helps me to focus on how he is feeling at the moment and to realize that there are two sides to every story. I never realized how much the pressure turned him off and how he felt "under the gun" to deliver, etc.
Don't be too hard on yourself, though. It sounds like you are doing great and I'm sure he's thrilled.
