Back on these forums again 6

[Mona52]

Depression sign #27: ML'ERS BECOME VERY COMPETITIVE WITH LOVED ONES

When a spouse is in mid life crisis, their LBS as well as other close family members become the enemy. Ml'ers are constantly comparing their loved ones with themselves. Many times they fall short and this leads to further insecurity and self-doubt. During their journey, they are out to prove that they are important and admired and become very competitive. They will withhold compliments/achievements toward important family members at this time. They begin to choose people in their lives that will make them feel good about themselves. Usually this means choosing people who are less accomplished and lower in character in order to make themselves feel better about themselves.

This is why I felt so betrayed on Thanksgiving. He chose to go to my sister's house. My sister burglarized him too. He never spoke to her! Now he is spending a major holiday with her and completely ignoring my existence.

But if you read this, (Thanks Judy for posting the link to this on inpain's thread) of course he would choose my sis. He has to believe no matter how bad his actions are, at least he is better than the criminal. Yeah, well, I got news for you Mr. Jerkface... your actions did more damage than she could ever do.

I am hanging out on MLC forum archives today. Want to make sure I dont parent or criticize or judge on Saturday. This will be the longest we have been near each other since I kicked him out.

I am not worried that I will mess up badly. I care less and less each day about how he feels. But I still want to do my best.