Bt13, he played role in it. You were taking on a lot of responsibilities back then, and you are doing same now. I know they say cheating is a symptom. I don't buy that. Cheating is a choice. I don't believe there is ever an excuse for it. Anyone that says that, is lying to themselves. You might have shared a role in marriage's decline but not in his choice to cheat. It is the ultimate betrayal. I was loyal to my husband despite a lot of sexual downs we encountered during our relationship. I made a choice that I would never cheat. Many of the men on these boards were loyal as well.
Well, unfortunately, if I understand Zeus correctly, all of that other stuff I did accounts for very little since my H was not getting fulfilled sexually. I think my H and Zeus are a lot a like and it adds up to being here. My H actually said after BD that he would have asked for D three years ago if he did not have too much else on his plate with his schooling. I know this was probably his A talking, but it does show a complete lack of appreciation for how hard his schooling was on me, our M, and what my contributions where to allow him to go to school. I actually blame most of our M issues on my Hs school. Which was enhanced by poor relationship skills on both our ends.
But I agree, here is never any reason to have an A and I do not believe I deserved that to happen.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
