I'm in the process of trying to understand the whole HD/LD personality, as well as the psychology that comes with it. I've been reading this board for about 2 weeks now, ordered the books, just waiting to get them. So far, I'm shocked about what I've learned!

I guess I'm hoping that there are some HD people (never realized it affected women as well as men...duh!) who don't feel like their mates are the 'boss' of everything, and that not all feel so angry or hurt over their spouse turning them down for sex. Is my HD husband feeling this way? Even if he says he isn't? I think he doesn't want to hurt my feelings, and I'd guess he doesn't want to break the momentum we are trying to build by admitting his 'real' feelings about me.

I have initiated ML 2x in the past week... he was floored! I have no problem once I've 'gotten started', but I'm wondering what to do about when I'm having trouble getting my engine running! I have lots of desire at the time, but I think it's a very fickle thing... depends on so many things. I don't want my H thinking he has to 'jump through hoops' to 'get it'! What next?


If anyone has any advice for this LD woman, I'd appreciate it. Even if it's just to say "Just do it!". I have never had such an awakening as I have had the past few weeks reading here... how did I not see this? I feel like such a selfish person now in the R!

Thanks,

islandgirl