Yes, I have been learning a lot about how many varying viewpoints there are on sex/SSM since BD that would have been good to know ages ago. It would have also helped immensely for H and I to actually have a conversation regarding expectations around sex before we got married. To be honest, I am not sure we have ever had one single thoughtful/detailed conversation about our sex life. How sad is that???
I honestly don't think I will understand how painful our SSM was for my H at least not in the way that you describe, Zeus. Does not mean that I haven't found empathy and compassion for H in this regard. It actually brings me to tears to know my H was living in silent torture for so many years. It is made no better by the fact that something could have been done about it.
Last edited by BT13; 01/07/1606:42 PM.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
