I couldn't help but stare as I was overwhelmed with attraction for her. She is still the most beautiful woman in the world.
If you only knew how many LBH's say those words! Here's the thing, Tyler. She may actually be very beautiful, but your attraction has become stronger b/c she is pulling away from you. It is natural to look at what you are losing and see how much you want it.
This is what I try to explain to the husbands here. It works the same way with wayward wives. The minute she thinks she's losing him.....oh boy, look out! Suddenly, she's pursuing him. She's full of questions about his activities (GAL) with what, where, and especially with whom. That is why we tell the LBH to step away from her and start living as if he is the most attractive guy out there.....who is not interested in women who cheat. Turn the tables, and you may just change the dynamics in the MR.
The secret is to keep it changed for good. So many H's get way too excited over the first little sign of pursuit (or just a smile) from her. He's ready to let her back without any work, MC, apology, anything. Those are the guys that end up coming back in a while b/c it didn't last. Don't take her back too quickly, and not too easily.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
