LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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Trumpet,
I'm trusting the new path is God's path and He is in complete control of my life. So I do believe the new path is better than what I would have chosen. Knowing this I chose God's path.

Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

My M was unhealthy. I am unhealthy (still working on it) and my WXW is unhealthy. Being in the M I either could not see it or did not want to see it. Being removed from the M has allowed me to see the unhealthy interactions and decide to do something about it. I believe my WXW is making progress but has a long journey. I also believe while in the M I had very little leverage to encourage her to get help bc of our dynamic. I believe God allowed our M to burn down so that my leverage with her increases along with recognizing areas I needed to work on. If she will allow Him to work I believe we may R.

It's amazing how writing this encourages me.

Our agreement is that she can stay until 7 days after the HELOC loan closes and I can pay her her equity out of the house. She is also scheduled to close on her new place on the 28th. So 3-4 more weeks tops as long as everything goes smoothly.

Even though it's weird having her there it hasn't been exactly unpleasant. She has been gentle and kind. Which is different than who she was prior to the D. There really isn't anything left for her to fight about with me.