I'm on month 3 after BD, and really the last week where I think she might file. Every day you can be DB'ing, is a day you'll be stronger when the time comes - either she will file, or you might.
I would take Painter's opinion. It sounds like you're upset that there might be OM#2. It would crush me as well. If OM#1's love is still in her heart, it might take some time, but if he's truly turning his life around and going back to his marriage, give your W some time to rid herself of the fog.
My wife is spewing at me almost every time she talks with me. I have limited talking to her right now. Her world is crumbling, but she can't see it all in focus yet. Her fog will take months to get rid of - if she wants to get rid of the fog.
Right now, both your W and my W are looking for their next hit of love potion #9.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
