Cadet, I can do it without expectations, calmly and rationally. But I don't think that my W is at a place where a chat will turn things around. I agree that actions speak louder than words.
As for results realistically at best I would feel better for having expressed what I am keeping for me. I don't know if it would move me closer to my goal.
Thanks for your input. As always concise and good.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together