As you go through this, you may even find yourself able to go even further back and realizing there were signs, that whole saying about hindsight is 20/20. It is of no consequence when our MLCrs started their journey, just as it's entirely up to them on when/if they complete it, all of this is and forever will be out of our control. I think the fact that this is just such a bizarre thing, this crisis, we seem to feel comforted going back and saying "ok this was definitely MLC" when we had no clue about it.... I know for me a fixer I've spent a good deal of time rehashing the years prior to BD and the major events for clues as to what brought the train off the tracks, honestly I've come to the conclusion it was many things, the time bomb was always ticking and wasn't much I could have done to stop it so I've let that part of this go, realeasing myself from that enabled me to focus more on the now of all this. It's not your fault, it's his crisis and he will have to get through it on his own.
