I talked to my L late yesterday, and explained that I'm trying to avoid mediation, so that I can use his "divorce funds" in order to move.
She's on board with the plan, is willing to help, but doesn't think we're going to be successful. She didn't say anything about freezing his funds, so maybe that's not an option here. She's quick to suggest anything that gets me out of his path. She's really an awesome L. She recommended another emergency hearing if he doesn't become reasonable immediately.
The plan right now is to submit offers and counteroffers through L's until we come up with something we can both live with. My L, of course, will not let me settle for too little. She's seen and heard enough of his behavior to know what I'm dealing with. She's also got quite a bit of experience with abusive, controlling husbands.
She agrees with all of you. She wants me to hide behind her, and not speak to him at all.
As I said yesterday, I'm in agreement. I hate him/I love him...it's tearing me apart, so I need to avoid him at all costs.
