Ok I get it ... Let go of the outcome and live my life for me....drop the rope.
If W files I will not contest, the reasons for D are not disclosed in the UK, so if W files under Unreasonable Behaviour no one will know, no matter how I feel about those two words.
I slept well last night , after two hours of bike riding with friends. Convos with W were better again with discussion of her new found love of running, S11's academic prowess and funeral arrangements. She seemed for comfortable around me , more relaxed.
I hate myself for screwing up and snooping on her. Getting caught ruined 3 months of DB work and has moved our sitch closer to D than ever.
Not snooping has given me a little peace inside, making it easier to detach, and live for me and the kids. Getting verbal support for friends is also helping.
Tonight I am meeting an old friend for a meal and drinks and to discuss our sitches. He is having some trouble at home with tension between his W and his Brother and SIL.
Tomorrow I am going out for drinks with friends. w is going for a meal with her GFs, then she is taking kids with her to MIL for the weekend.
It's one week to the funeral of FIL, then I go away to week in Greece for 5 nights. I fact in late Jan and early Feb I will be working away for 10 nights or so. It helps give W space, space to heal and think.
Sotto. Thanks for sharing details of your sitch...it helps a lot
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
