Need support navigating the change in my marriage

[G8r]

W IM'ed me earlier today to let me know that D3 got her fingers stuck in the car door today. Her fingers were bruised but not broken. Poor thing. Instead of getting angry with W, I let her know that I knew it was an accident and mentioned that she shouldn't beat herself up over it. She said she felt horrible so I validated he'd feelinhs.

Well, this evening W was tossing out passive aggressive barbs like they were candy. I also could hear the IM on her phone going off constantly and I assume most of them were from the om. Guess the earlier validation knocked a pebble from her wall. Normally I would be annoyed by the phone and / or defended my actions against her comments. Proud of myself for doing neither. Well, that only leaves another hundred million or so pebbles to go.