I agree with JellyB here. Not every man is built the same way Zues. Some men have a very low drive. And also don't want to talk. And not just since BD. And it hurts just as much when you are a woman who is rejected and denied sex over and over. It makes you feel rejected and ugly and unwanted and unloved. And angry. It is more complicated than a gender issue.
Fo neither of my partners had low sex drive. Something else was in play. I believe issues of power and control over meeting needs and levels of commitment and love.
