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Thanks V & Jelly for swooping in!!

Yes I think I will respond neutrally - I don't want to really get into a conversation about this at this point in time.

Likely:

You really didn't need to say any of that, but thank you. Also - I don't hate you.

no more than that. Anything else and something could drag on.

I went to my IC tonight and mentioned all of this, she agreed to keep it simple, but asked if by the way she worded the text if I was worried she was depressed or would hurt herself. I had thought that too. She said that I could mention that she could talk to someone about this and that the IC has helped me.

I don't think that I will do this though.
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V-From this weekend and this message, I think she must value me as a parent, I know the kids value me as a parent. Unfortunately, they saw the imbalance of time over the holidays and S18 sees the imbalance of who pays for what. I think that I need to hide that better - I don't involve him in a way to make him side with me or change his opinion of his mom, but more to show that most bills are not for fun things (more necessities and daily things). He is going to be on his own too soon and I want to teach him about these things.

Having W & d15 over for me to help solve a problem made me think that I am doing ok in everyone's eyes (including my own) and makes me think that the time the kids are with me is valuable to them (and me) so - yes, I will be enforcing a balance.

Thanks again - I'll be back later to update from before. I have some questions to answer

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