Thank you Sandi I think in my detaching attempt so far I feel I have been approaching it wrong and totally closing myself off. Not talking to S going out of my way to avoid her. When what I believe I have to do is live my life like I want. She is going to be part of it no matter what as we have children together and nothing I say or do should be to change her. It should be for me. I am not saying I'm going to start acting like nothing is wrong or hasn't changed and act like we are happily married. A large part is me letting go of what she thinks of me. Why should I care right now what she thinks of me. It's about what I think of me and right now I feel much more positive about myself. My choices and my relationship with my children.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
