inpain - What do you understand about MLC? To me, your H is showing classic signs. These interactions are practically textbook examples of MLC confusion.
The world revolves around them. Period. The rest of you are support staff to their needs. Nothing they do will make sense to you. I'm not sure it does to them, but they ignore that. They will give and take back affection whenever they see fit. No. You are not allowed to treat them the same way they treat you. It offends them. They spew. They shout. They throw tantrums. The same rules that apply to them, do not apply to you. They can do whatever they want, whenever they want, and with whomever they want. You? You'd best be in the same place they left you, or all hell will break loose.
Have you done any poking around the MLC section of this forum? There is a lot of information to be found about this, as well as practical advice from other DBers. The only part of DBing that applies with MLC is really to keep a positive mental attitude. Things that work in other situations don't usually work with them.
I wish I had more for you. Stick to DB principles as much as you can. Try and keep calm. (I fail miserably at this, all the time.) I think you handled the interactions beautifully. You were calm, you were nice. I like to say my favorite words are strong and calm...then I get upset and become shrew and crazy...lol
