WW, My Addiction, Patience is HARD

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That's right Trumpet! Take the high road.

As far as the physical violence......if I may give some personal experience.
My WXW also has a lot of anger. She has physically assaulted me on several occasions. I often just blew it off because I'm 6'4" 250 lbs athlete who still works out regularly and it is very unlikely she would ever be able to hurt me. However, I've realized it's a form of disrespect and I'm not going to tolerate being disrespected anymore. I addressed this with my DB coach along with my IC. They both said this is unacceptable and I have to create and maintain my boundaries. They recommended the next time I think she is going to get physical that I tell her I will call the police. But I have to be willing to follow through.
Well, not long after having these conversations with my DB coach and IC it happened. We were in the office. She started aggressively moving toward me. I had my phone and told her
"if you touch me I will call 911."
She backed off and laughed. She was then standing in the door way and I said "If you block me in this room I will call 911". She laughed again and walked off. The next day she asked me "would you have really called 911?" I said "Yes, I will no longer tolerate you hitting me, aggressively putting your hands on me or blocking me in rooms."
She said " You would be ok with the kids seeing the cops show up here, handcuff their mother and arrest me?"
I said "No, I am not ok with it but if you touch me again I will call 911 and that is what will happen"
she left the room. She has not been aggressive with me or blocked me in a room since.

Creating boundaries for yourself really does change the way people can interact with you